Couples Therapy

• Relationship need help?
• Having the same fight over and over again?
• Relationship gone dead?
• Wondering if you can really make it work?
• Yearning for more intimacy?

We can help you overcome your resentments and distance, and create a healthy, loving relationship.

We are a couple with a happy, intimate 18 year relationship. Each of us is a highly competent therapist with 30 years of professional experience.

The Four Cornerstones of Our Approach

Couples that have an intimate knowledge of each other’s world are better prepared to cope with stressful events and marital conflict. You can regain your feelings of affection and appreciation for each other and learn how to express this. You can relearn how to reach out to your partner and respond to his or her bids for contact.

Internal Family Systems Therapy is a powerful new approach that provides a way of discovering your parts or subpersonalities and how they get into conflict with your partner's parts. IFS allows you to access your core Self which has the qualities of compassion, curiosity, and calmness. From this center, you can heal the pain of exiled subpersonalities and learn to relate to your partner in a healthy way. See Internal Family Systems website.

We can help you communicate with each other in a way that is clear, open, and assertive.

• Becoming aware of how you are reacting and what you actually want.
• Asserting your feelings and needs and being open to your partner’s.
• Being clear and constructive in your statements.
• Knowing when to engage and when to take a break

We each have a variety of interpersonal patterns that affect the way we are in love relationships. Some people are overly compliant or controlling. Others are too needy or too distant. Using The Pattern System developed by Jay, we will help you understand each of your individual patterns with an emphasis on the ones that create difficulties in the way you interact with each other. See the article Patterns in Love Relationships.

We apply these same principles to help you resolve difficulties and enhance intimacy in other relationships:

• Sibling relationships
• Relationships with your parents
• Close friendships
• Business relationships

We can do this by working with the two of you together, or through individual coaching to help you resolve the issues of yours that are holding back the relationship.

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Locations 
Offices in Marin, El Cerrito, and San Francisco.
Relationship Coaching can also be done on the phone from anywhere.

Contact Us
Call 415-924-5200.
Email jay@earley.org or
bonnieweiss@gmail.com 

Relationship Profile
Take a questionnaire to get an overview of your relationship.

Articles

Relationship Coaching

Biographical Information
Bonnie Weiss
Jay Earley

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